One of my favourite films is Dan in Real Life. Not so much a deep and meaningful on the surface but embedded in the light-hearted family banter, in Juliette Binoche’s introductory search for the impossible, in Steve Carell’s philosophical lecture on being in the Light and in the lingering question of how can you know in 3 days, lies the underlying themes that run deep in our human psyche. We are all searching for that moment that will surprise us. That feeling of being swept up in something far greater than we’ve ever known. That moment is not as far away as we might think and although the path may take us on routes we don’t understand and even throw us in situations where all we want to do is stand with the best of them and throw the biggest rock with the biggest groan, it’s never as bad as what our logical minds make it seem. Life is full of surprises. That’s the joy of it. The reason for being here. And once we actually get what that means it makes more sense to see happiness in the journey rather than the destination. For life never really ends. We never really get there. It’s all in the learning, in the experiencing, in finding that nugget of gold from each adventure to add to our bag of wisdom. When our Hearts are open to life’s joys it’s easy to see the beauty in it. It’s even easier to recognize another sharing the same path. Can we really know in 3 days? I’d say we can know instantly. And as we continue to move forward into these unknown territories, life is becoming more of an adventure than it ever was. There is a sense that we really have no idea where we are going even though it feels like it’s exactly where we are meant to be.
I want to talk to you about the subject of plans
Not so much my plans
more like life plans
and how we all make them
and how we hope our kids
make good, smart, safe plans of their own
But if we’re really honest with ourselves
most of the time our plans
don’t work out
So instead of asking our young people
what are your plans?
What do you plan to do with your life?
Maybe we should tell them this
Plan to be surprised.
~ Dan In Real Life (2008)